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Email Issues

So my maiden name is Barker. And thereā€™s this other Rachel Barker, who either genuinely thinks she has my email address, or just uses it as her spamĀ email.

But over the years I have learned her entire address, most of her family memberā€™s names, including motherā€™s maiden name, and a metric tonne of other information about her, like where she works and banks. I am unwilling to get rid of this email (which is a gmail address that I have owned literally since the first month gmail was a thing), but I basically only log in to delete her emails at this point.

Last month I got a notification that she was trying to log in to outlook.com, with an email address I own (and have since about 2006) but donā€™t ever use. So I tried to log in myself, but the account was locked. I talked to Microsoft account services, and they verified me as the account owner, but I had to wait 30 days for the account to unlock.

So I did. And today when the 30 days were up, I logged in, changed the password and set up two factor authentication. When I got in I saw that she has ALSO been using the outlook email as her own for years. She never replies, obviously, since she couldnā€™t actually access the email. But people have been emailing her at that address.

Is she terrible at email? Does she just hate everyone in her life and gives them aā€œfakeā€ email? It is unclear.

But if youā€™re ever googling yourself, Rachel Barker who lives in Southborough, Kent, UK: Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you donā€™t own any emails using rachel.barker. You donā€™t own it on any service, not outlook, not gmail. Please stop giving it out, Iā€™m uncomfortable knowing this much about you.